Some topics are unavoidable when they're prominent in the news. Lately, one of these topics has been that of marriage equality. One common theme keeps popping up, and it BOTHERS THE SHIT OUT OF ME! One such discussion happened recently at a local bar. It went something like this...
“I'm not a bigot; I just don't think gays should marry...”
Actually, yes... you ARE a bigot.
“NO I'M NOT! I have friends who are gay...”
… and yet, you think they're less of a human than you are?
“Why would you say that?”
Well, you don't think that they deserve to have the same rights that you do. If we, as humans, are supposed to have equal rights, then why do you think they don't deserve the same rights you do, then that would suggest that you see them as less human.
“But the Bible says it's wrong...”
Actually, the OLD TESTAMENT says that, and a lot of other crazy things... you left your ex-wife after she cheated on you... did you slaughter a fatted calf after stoning her? CHRISTians are supposed to look to the words of CHRIST; and in Matthew 19:12, he says (in the language of his time) that some PEOPLE are born gay.
If they are, indeed, people, as Jesus said, then don't they deserve to live under the umbrella of the words “Love thy neighbor?”
It doesn't say:
“Love thy neighbor*”
*Unless they're gay
“But the Church opposes it...”
The First 10 words of the First Amendment read “Congress shall pass no law respecting an establishment of Religion.” The position of your Church is irrelevant. Religious doctrine can't become law.
“But the next part says 'nor abridging the free-exercise thereof.' Laws can't discriminate on my religion.”
If you don't support gay marriage, don't have one. Your religious beliefs aren't being oppressed. However, if you're telling other people, who believe differently than you; that marriage is about love, rather than gender; that their religious beliefs can't be expressed, just like your's, because of YOUR beliefs, then aren't their religious beliefs being oppressed by yours?
“So just because someone chooses to be gay, they should be allowed special laws?”
When did you choose to be straight? Furthermore, how is that a “special law?” It seems to me that more laws have been created to DENY people this right... simply removing those laws, to make the current laws apply to EVERYONE sounds more like we're REMOVING “special laws,” going the other way; just like the repeal of the 3/5 clause in the Constitution.
"I didn't choose to be straight. I just know I am."
So I guess, then, it's outrageous to think that other people might be born different than you. I guess, then, everybody must be born with brown hair and blue eyes. I guess, then, everybody must need glasses. I guess we're all just born the same?
"Well, no... obviously not... but..."
So then, it's perfectly possible that someone else might grow up KNOWING they're gay... glad we settled that...
“But marriage is a religious pact. If the Constitution can't tell us how to worship, how can marriages be regulated by law?”
Actually, marriage is a contractual agreement with the State and Federal government. If it weren't, marriage status wouldn't affect taxes. If marriage weren't a legal contract, then everybody would have to file taxes individually, rather than as a married couple.
“But it'll hurt the economy...”
How will more weddings hurt an economy? That means more officiants, more cakes and bakers and bartenders and caterers and limo drivers and dove handlers and event planners and event centers (which may need to be built or renovated) and more gift registries (which means more gift buying... stuff needs to be made when stuff is bought) and more traveling and more hotel stays and eating out and more flying and driving and Amtraking and Busing... that all sounds like MORE jobs to me, and a BETTER economy...
“Gay marriage will threaten traditional marriages...”
So, if gays are allowed to marry, would you leave your new wife for a man?
“No... I'm not gay...”
Then YOUR marriage won't be threatened. Why should it matter to you?
“Well, it doesn't matter to me, but it might affect other people...”
And why is that your business?
“Well, it's not...”
Then it shouldn't matter...
“But marriage has ALWAYS been between one man and one woman.”
No it hasn't. In Ancient Greece, Ancient Egypt, some Native American tribes, Mormons, and many Muslim current countries, marriage is between one man and SEVERAL women, or two people who love each other, regardless of gender. The Roman Emperor, Caligula, married his horse. Clearly, marriage has NOT always been between 'one man and one woman.'
“And Ancient Greece and Rome fell; the Native Americans don't have many people left; the Mormons abandoned polygamy; and the Muslims are... well... Muslims...”
Greece and Rome fell because their empires got too big to maintain, and they collapsed beneath their own decadence and arrogance. Gay marriage had nothing to do with it; furthermore, it's largely because of CHRISTIANS that there aren't many Native Americans left; and after your comment about Muslims, how can you say you're not a bigot?
“Well, I was talking about gays; not Muslims...”
Should Muslims be allowed to marry?
“Well, of course they should.”
So why is it ok for Muslims, but not gays?
“Muslims believe in a God, just like I do.”
So Atheists shouldn't be allowed to get married, either?
“I didn't say that...”
Yes, you did... you said that the reason Christians and Muslims should be allowed to marry, is because they believe in God. Alternately, if someone doesn't believe in God, they shouldn't be allowed to marry.
“I didn't say that. There's no reason Atheists shouldn't marry...”
… as long as they're not gay...
Tell me again, how are you not a bigot?